When Morpheus Came To Visit
You couldn’t talk.
The tube protruding from your mouth wouldn’t let you. Its steady rhythm added to the orchestra of sounds preserving life in your hospital room. The machine on the right output the readings from your pacemaker and made a sound similar to that of a pulsing piano; the one next to that was more interrupted, only beeping every three minutes or so. Your nurse’s hurried gait sped up the tempo. Even the liquid in your IV bag dropped on a beat.
The television was muted, oddly enough. Before you got sick, you turned the television up as loud as it could go for your favorite show, The Price is Right. You watched Bob Barker and his troop of United Nations beauties make showcases reality for an hour. You’d yell at the contestant, calling them fools and “sap suckas” if you felt they underbid.
(I found your ticket stubs from the show you went to in 1987 in the
nightstand when mom and I cleaned out your room the next week. I
wondered why we didn’t talk about the taping during one of our mornings
together.)
This time, you just watched in silence.
No yelling, no cursing.
You blinked. Slowly, like a baby fighting sleep. You tried to motion something to me with your right hand but the pain from the IV quickly made you lower it back to the bed. I patted your hand and rubbed your forehead. I had remembered you doing the same when I had the chicken pox.
Your face was swollen from the medicine. The nurse would come every few hours to administer another dose but as the days grew into weeks and the weeks into that first month, they upgraded you to a morphine drip. It seemed that even with that, you were still in pain. The drip wasn’t enough to dull the memories you had because you were in a bed in the same hospital that your wife died in; a few rooms over from the memory of your last kiss.
(Mom told me that Auntie collapsed before she got to the door the day Grams
died and you should know that she did the same thing with you. Theo and I
crowded around your hospital bed. You were our first real dead body. They
had removed all of the tubes, turned off all of the machines, and closed your
eyes. They forgot to close your mouth, though. To us, you were just sleeping.
We poked you, not really understanding that you wouldn’t ever play “sleep”
again. We looked inside of your mouth. The doctor told us to move away
from you. Something about decomposing, but we ignored him until Mom told
us to move. You were sleeping and we wanted to watch you sleep the same
way we did when we were toddlers—right under your chin. )
You closed your eyes and gingerly nodded your head. I examined your body for marks that weren’t there the day before. I remembered reading a news report about elder abuse and wanted to make sure the nurses weren’t beating you after visiting hours. Not that I actually suspected Betty, June, or Elena but who really thinks with an open and clear mind when their loved one is dying? I was seventeen and you were the only father I knew.
The sores on your forearm had grown. The doctor, the short balding one who spoke softly and compassionately to us the morning you died, said that they formed because your body retained excess water.
I couldn’t look at them for long. They scared me. Huge water-filled sacs all over your arms and legs. They looked like small candles were imbedded in your arm. You didn’t look like my grandfather with those sacs; you looked like a sick man, an old man. A stranger. Sorry for running out of your room every time we pulled the covers back. A few weeks after I ran out for the last time, away from your sacs and the ointment and the pills and the family fasting for your recovery, you were back in the hospital. I came home from work and knew something had changed. Your room was clean and smelled like it did before you got sick—cinnamon and Old Spice.
The last day you were alive, you were in so much pain. The skin under your eyes was swollen, the pillow damp from collecting your tears.
“We’ll make him as comfortable as possible,” I heard the doctor tell Mom. He was using dye to mask his onset graying. The discoloration between his side burns and scalp reminded me of the black dye kits you used for the same reason. She held her emotions, like she always did. Her weight never shifted and her eyes never fluttered. Focused attention, steady body, just like you taught her. I walked into your room and sat in the chair next to your bed. I held your hand. You squinted in pain as soon as I touched you.
“I’m sorry, Gramps.” You blinked away the tears that you could control, the others slid down into the pillow.
Your tears didn’t frighten me. You were a man’s man, so they weren’t seen often. The eldest of nine, the responsible one, the father who served two terms when his daughter returned after a broken marriage. I think the time you had an allergic reaction was the first time I saw you cry. I was five and we were home alone. I knew how to dial 9-1-1 but called Auntie instead, remember? The firefighters carried me into the living room and talked to me about Minnie Mouse while others resuscitated you. When you came home from the hospital a few days later, I was in the bed, falling asleep. I tried to get up and come with you but you kissed me on my forehead and told me that it was okay to go to sleep.
Just then, I leaned down to you and whispered in your ear. I didn’t know how we were going to make it without you but seeing you cry that day, I knew you had to hear the words from me. Mom would never say them, Auntie couldn’t say them, and Theo wasn’t allowed inside of the ICU.
I whispered the same words you told me that night as I kissed your forehead. When I closed my eyes, I remembered every night you read to me about the princesses and princes living happily ever after. I remembered you carrying me on your back at Disneyland, the days we played goldfish and checkers. I remembered the night my first boyfriend came to watch a movie. You pushed your sofa chair around so that you could watch us and She’s All That at the same time. I still have the bat you used to threaten his life. I remembered you in those scenes, so full of vigor, strength, and life. You closed your eyes, as if remembering the same.
(We wore black and red to your service. They dressed you in the
same. With your favorite red tie. The Reverend told us to kiss you
goodnight before they closed the casket but you weren’t there. Your
body was pale (too much make-up); shriveled up (no more life). You
would have hated being positioned like that, with your hands crossed
over you. When you slept, they were by your sides. )
In June, it’ll be [ten] years. I try to remember your voice; steady, deep and oozing with the Southern twang you passed down to us but only recall your infamous sayings—“that ain’t worth two blood nickels”, “don’t give a damn,” and my personal favorite, “sap sucka.” The truth is that, for the majority everything you said would happen came true. My first boyfriend turned out to be a “son of a seacock”; I crashed the El Camino you gave me three times; Mom and Auntie still yell at each other and end up laughing in the same breath; and my father and I started over. In my dreams of you, you said it would be easier, that the time would mend my aching heart. In some ways, you were right. I don’t cry at the mention of your name anymore but there are some wounds time cannot heal.
I’m still uncomfortable in hospitals. Something about the smell, maybe it’s the image of your body absent of you and the thought that I was responsible for your death because I told you it was okay for you to leave. Maybe it’s because I needed something to blame for how I felt and why not blame the structure that I’ll forever associate with the last time I saw you breathing? You’d probably say that it’s foolish to blame the hospital and that God has a plan for everything.
“Ain’t no use in questioning it,” you’d say.
(Amaree turns eight in June. His birth certificate reads,
“Baby boy…born 08:00.”)
You flew away a minute before, but you already knew that part.